I tried to quit smoking for many years. I actually quit smoking cold turkey when I stopped trying and I just refused to allow myself to pick up even one cigarette. Each moment that went by and I did not succumb to rationalizations of you can ‘have just one’ I got stronger. It was by not picking up even one that I proved to myself yes I am quitting.
I tried for a long time to stop letting the bad behavior of other people get under my skin. I actually stopped letting other people’s bad behavior push my buttons when one day I took a deep breath and just refused to engage. Doing it once was what I needed to prove to myself it was really possible. With practice no longer choosing to ego-boxing became my new norm.
We are not powerless over our own life. We are not powerless over our ego. We are not powerless over our mind that has a mind of its own. WE are the higher, wiser, controlled, patient and loving Self with power over each of our thoughts, words and deeds.
Our happiness, peace, self-respect and self-love come from making ourselves take the actions we know need to be taken to create the life we really want. Yes we can accomplish the goals we set for ourselves, when we love ourselves enough to stop trying and actually do what it is we say we want to do.