Have you considered that holding onto resentment against those who hurt you in the past is allowing them to continue having power over you in the present?
The people who hurt, mistreated, or ridiculed you have moved on or remain oblivious to the harm they caused. There is no good that comes from you keeping the pain of the past alive. Take your power back by letting go of what you think they would have or could have done different. Let go of the idea they should have known better just because you know better.
Accept the fact that people are at different levels of emotional awareness and responsibility. People who hurt others are passing on unconsciousness, which is what they know. Until they have the courage to question their behavior they will not “know” there is a better way.
This week, love yourself more than how you were treated by people who did not have the awareness you do. Since you know there is a better way, let go of the anger and resentment that is only hurting you. Forgive them for they did not know what they were doing so you must do what they could not. And, if you are continuing to endure mistreatment it is time to begin loving yourself by setting boundaries.
Here is an exercise from my upcoming book that will help you to forgive:
Go to a quiet, comfortable, and safe place where you will not be interrupted.
Think back to the times when you were hurt by the actions of others. Write each instance on a separate sheet of paper.
When you are finished, put them into a bag.
Find a safe place to burn the papers, such as a fireplace, outdoor grill, fire pit, or a clay saucer that is placed on a concrete or dirt surface away from things like leaves or dry grass. As a precaution, have a bottle or two of water handy.
Take one paper out of the bag, and read what you have written. Remember the event, not as a victim of it, but as the powerful person you are now. Feel whatever emotions and feelings naturally come up. Then imagine you are a colander, and allow your emotional attachments to that event of your past to pour out and wash away.
Once you have felt the memories of this event, light the piece of paper on fire, and envision the pain of that event being burned up. See the person who hurt you standing in front of you. As the smoke rises from the paper, envision that any anger and resentment you still carry toward him or her is rising, leaving with the smoke.
I welcome you to repeat the same release affirmation I used, or you can write your own: “I accept this happened and that it is okay to be angry. I also accept I cannot do anything to change you or the past. Your behavior was not my fault, and I am not condoning your actions. By forgiving, I no longer allow you the power to continue hurting me. I am reclaiming power over my life and my thoughts. You are no longer welcome on my journey.”
Repeat this process with the other pieces of paper.