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RYS 41: Change Yourself to Change Your World

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Have you ever wished you had a magic wand? You could wave that magical stick, people would change, and at last your life would be happier, flow easier, and everything would be okay. I grew up on fairy tales. Deep down I always knew magic wands were not real but I stubbornly clung to the idea if I just screamed loud enough, harped long enough, complained long enough, people would change and my life would suddenly be magical.

• We are the only person who can make changes to ourselves.
• When we change ourselves our attitude changes.
• Our changing is what changes our lives, relationships and circumstances.

 

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A Drama-Rama Life is not Entertaining

Life is going to suck at times. Life is going to provide lots of drama. There is much negative going on in the world. But when we only focus on the negative, the drama-rama of life, we find ourselves in the middle of a bleak existence where we feel powerless, depressed, and victimized. And we wonder why. Because of what we’re letting in to influence us.

Someone I know became addicted to television court dramas—so much so she experienced frequent panic attacks and no longer found value in her daily life. Her relationships suffered, and she gained a tremendous amount of weight from eating while glued to the endless spectacle as it unfolded daily over the television.

We have to keep in the forefront of our consciousness, what we concentrate on we create. What we allow in does influence our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Just like Earth is constantly being hit by cosmic radiation you and I are constantly being hit too by endless advertisements, news programs, commentary, billboards, radio shows, pessimistic people, and websites designed to capture our attention and influence us. Much of our exposure is negative or opinionated, condones reckless behavior, or promotes the pursuit of meaningless goals. Don’t forget advertisers are selling you something.  They will use fear, lies, sex and all sorts of things to intimidate or seduce you into purchasing what they are selling.

There is a saying, “We are what we eat.” What we feed our body can nurture us. Or, eating without awareness can set us up for illness, excess weight gain, and stress. The same is true for what we feed our mind and heart.Care about what you allow into your mind and heart because a little bit of drama comes with being alive but a life filled with drama will never be that entertaining.

RYS 40: Ask Questions, Be Informed, Learn Truth for Yourself

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Did you know Betsy Ross probably did not design or sew the first flag for the United States of America? Like me, most likely you were taught that she did. But the truth is she never claimed to sew the first flag. No official documentation has been found to confirm Betsy Ross was responsible for creating it.

• Information is power.
• Not all information is truthful or factual.
• If we are not asking questions of ourselves, other people and the world to determine fact, then we are not thinking for ourselves.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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Healthy Boundaries Create Healthy Relationships

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At one time I was a doormat. People walked all over me. They abused me and used me. I hated myself for being weak, for not standing up for myself, for being a doormat.  Until one day the resentment and anger grew so big I exploded.  But the emotional eruption did not make me feel better.  The only thing that stopped me feeling used and abused was to stop allowing myself to be mistreated.

People will treat us as we allow them to. People will not know how to treat us unless we let them know.  We can’t be afraid of rocking the boat or that we won’t be liked.  Who cares if we are liked by people who mistreat us, or use us, or treat us like a doormat?

A boundary is a limit we set to protect and take care of ourselves.  Boundaries let other people know our availability, values, and the conditions under which we will interact.  Establishing a boundary about how we want to be treated or how we must take care of ourselves is not about control or manipulation.  We do not set boundaries to change other people.  We do so to change us – to create a better, more positive life for ourselves by demonstrating a commitment to self-love and respect.

Learn to say no. Don’t be a doormat thinking people will like you for doing what they want you to do. Respect yourself enough to not go against what you know is right and best for you. The right people will respect you when you respect yourself enough to set boundaries out of love for yourself.

RYS 039: Keeping Up with the Crowd is Highly Overrated

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What does being a success mean to you? Have you thought about it? I mean have you seriously considered what success really means to you?

• We’ve been disillusioned to believe success is surrounding ourselves with things.
• Things are not who we really are.
• Defining what success means to you is one of the most important acts of self-love and respect.

 

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RYS 038: Self-Control is True Power

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One of the most attractive and endearing traits of us human beings is our capacity for courtesy. Yes, there are countless ways we rock as a species but being considerate of one another is and always will be right up there at the very top of the list. Our feelings of self-worth and respect come from treating others politely, even when they are not polite to us.

• We cannot reason with unreasonable people.
• Self-control is a corner stone of self-respect.
• True power lies in setting the standard for how we behave.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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Get to Know Your Neighbors

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There was a time we exchanged keys with a neighbor should we get locked out. We trusted each other.

There was a time if someone needed help, neighbors rushed to be of assistance. We watched out for one another.

There was a time if a child fell off her bicycle, a stranger walked her safely home. We cared for other people’s children as if they were our own.

That time was recently, in my neighborhood, in the heart of the second largest city in the United States.  Good people are everywhere! You and I are part of a worldwide group of people who are more similar than different. The vast majority of us want the same things like peace, happiness, and connectedness.

So romance your soul by getting to know your neighbors because our neighborhoods create our cities. Our cities create our states. Our states create our nation. Kindness, friendliness, helpfulness, and cooperation really do start at home by our being examples of what good neighbors and positive community member’s look like.

Be first to extend the hand of friendship.  Don’t wait for other people to go first.  You take the lead and share a smile, make a friend.

 

RYS 037: Be a Better Person Today Than You Were Yesterday

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When we begin to make positive changes to ourselves we often expect our whole life to miraculously change overnight for the better. We think all of our problems and challenges will magically fall away and BAM the fantastic life we want appears. It is supportive to realize creating our best life does not happen overnight.

• Personal growth occurs through a process of small steps, each necessary in order for the next step to be taken.
• It took time for us to develop negative habits.
• It takes time for us to free ourselves from them too.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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Loneliness is a State of Mind

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One of the best things I’ve learned is that there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. At this time in life I spend a lot of time alone and love each minute of me-time.  Periods of solitude are healthy. I engage with myself, support myself, and have established intimacy with myself, which means I know me inside and out and am comfortable with who I am. It is during my alone time that I am most creative.  I healed myself by being alone. Solitude allowed me to honestly look within.  Today I am absolutely okay being alone. But there was a time I spent most of my time alone and hated it. And, there was a good reason I felt lonely even when I was surrounded by other people.

I felt lonely because I told myself I was lonely.  I know it sounds funny but our thoughts create our behavior.  I was completely focused on the huge chasm between my desire for hanging out with people and the reality of my social interaction level.  I wanted lots of friends and to be popular but I wasn’t. What I focused on – my being lonely – I created.

It is important for us to accept we are never alone.  We always have ourselves.  For me, accepting I could be my own best friend, biggest fan, most trusted confidant, and loving partner, allowed me to appreciate the difference between being lonely and being alone.

Learn how to be your own best friend, biggest fan, most trusted confidant, and loving partner.  By being okay on your own you will no longer be lonely. And, people will want to be around you because you are okay on your own.

RYS 036: View Setbacks as New Opportunities to Move Forward

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I have always been somewhat uncomfortable with the two steps forward, one step back approach to evaluate our progress toward achieving a goal. Each step we take plays a vital role on our journey. Both those that move us forward and especially those which cause us to halt and carefully reconsider our plans.

• Moving forward and backward is part of the natural ebb and flow of change and positive growth.
• We learn by looking at what we can gain from setbacks.
• A positive attitude makes the hard in life easier.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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