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RYS 055: Care How it Will Feel

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The quality of life is a direct result of the behavior we put out. When we are proud of how we behave in responsible ways we feel self-respect and a healthy sense of personal pride. And, when we don’t care about how our behavior impacts us and others, we are disconnected from our heart.

• We are not genuinely proud, happier, or more peaceful for acting thoughtlessly.
• Extensive personal freedom requires us to operate at the highest levels of personal integrity.
• We are the ones who benefit most from caring about our behavior.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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Be the Person You Want to Attract

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I was forty-eight years old before I found my right partner. It happened only after I stopped focusing on finding someone and started concentrating completely on being someone worth finding.

Today I want to talk with you about how important it is that you be the person you want to attract.  By knowing yourself intimately, and you are honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses, then you will know what you are comfortable with in another person.

Take time to determine which values, such as honesty, loyalty, compassion, promptness, cooperation, patience (think of as many as you can) are currently among your character strengths, or, if absent, your weaknesses. After determining your values, strengths, and limitations, spend time determining your objectives in a relationship. What is important to you in terms of finances, monogamy, pets, having children and how to raise them, spirituality, savings, accumulation of things vs. memories, etc.  The goal is to find someone who shares your values.  He puts the toilet seat down because he is courteous.  She hangs up her clothes because she is neat.  You both share your thoughts and feelings with one another because you value the intimacy that comes from clear and honest communication.

Your relationships will not be successful if you try to mold someone into the person you want them to be. Look for someone who already embodies the values you hold dear.  Then you will be able to weather any relationship storm because respect and clear communication is the foundation upon which you have come together to create a better life than you would have on your own. Who’s out there for you depends on what’s already within you.

RYS 054: What to do When You Can do Nothing

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How many situations do you encounter in life when you are completely powerless to do anything to positively effect change? How many times have you encountered a frustrating situation when the answer is clear to you yet evades those who hold the power?

• Not everyone behaves at the same level of emotional awareness and level of personal responsibility.
• Head-first limits us to only what our thoughts tell us to believe and how to act.
• We choose our battles wisely rather than allowing ourselves to ego-box with those who do not care to see anything other than their point of view.

 

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RYS 053: Life Falls Apart for a Reason

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When we are traveling down the wrong path in life we get lots of wake up calls to get us back on the right and best path. Sometimes the wakeup calls begin gently, like a nudge from the Universe. If we don’t listen they become stronger. If we still don’t listen it is my experience the wake up calls become painful.

• Nothing positive comes from ignoring our intuitive guidance.
• Inner guidance positively off-sets the limitations and fear of our mind.
• Listening to and acting upon our inner guidance allows us to become our own biggest supporter.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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To Have the Best Life Give the Best of Yourself to Life

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For twenty two years I was a slave to cigarettes. Some days I smoked two packs. Back then it was like each day I set a $5 bill a day on fire. Not to mention the constant coughing, bad breath, horrible smelling clothing, reoccurring bronchitis, and inability to walk up a flight of stairs without having to rest. I was only in my early forties and I was terrified of dying. Yet, day after day, year after year, I continued to justify smoking. Just like any addiction, smoking was my way of stuffing emotional pain so with each inhale I sucked in more self-hatred, denial, and disappointment.

While I hated being under the control of a tiny white tube of tobacco, I believed I was too weak-willed to quit. Until one day it hit me. I was NOT weak at all. I was strong for having successfully survived all of the other challenges life brought me. No, I was not weak, but fearful what life would be like and who I would be without the emotional crutch I’d used for over two decades.

Accepting the fact I was using cigarettes to avoid opening up to loving and respecting myself, was the game-changing aha.  The truth is, no matter how painful my life had been, intentionally continuing to hurt myself was even more painful. A little over fifteen years ago, at 9 p.m. on a Sunday evening, I put cigarettes down for good.

When we finally decided to love ourselves and do whatever it takes to accomplish a goal we will succeed.  It begins with an intentional choice to stop allowing something to control us. Then we start controlling ourselves because to have the best life we must give the best of ourselves to life.

RYS 052: Loyalty is Responsible, But Not When it is Blind

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Loyalty is an excellent quality of love. But when faithfulness and devotion are motivated by fear, we are in essence allowing ourselves to be used, abused, and mistreated.

• The fearful and limiting energy we put out attracts similar energy.
• We must refuse to allow fear to keep us stuck in negative and harmful situations.
• Self-supportive and determined thoughts opened up new opportunities.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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Every Action Has a Consequence

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Recently I wrote a piece for an on-line magazine for its spirituality section. Although the article was about forgiveness and love, the editor wanted to put my photo in front of the word hate to accompany the article. After much discussion and protest on my part the photo was changed, but he did so begrudgingly.

One very huge thing bothered me about this. Every photo put on the internet stays on the internet forever!  The photo of me smiling with the word hate behind me, would have gone out on the internet without the accompanying article, to stand alone without explanation.  Anyone Googling my name would pull up the photo of me, with my smiling face, with the word HATE behind me.

You may not remember, but I do, the negative impact a standalone photo had on a very young Jane Fonda when she innocently held up a rifle in Vietnam during the war. A photo was snapped of her smiling, holding the rifle, and to this day she is still thought of by some a traitor. The truth is, she was too young to know the reality of what was going to happen. This happened way before the internet.

There is a huge difference between following the guidance of our head and the justifications it makes and our heart that has wisdom to see the big picture.  To create our best life it is vital to use our heart to evaluate what our head tells us because every one of our actions results in a consequence. We take time to determine the possible consequences of our actions before we act. And, we stand up and defend ourselves against those people who do not have the heart-awareness to see what is clear to us as the higher, more loving and positive way of moving in the world.

Today, take time to evaluate what you put on the internet.  Not from fear, but simply from the perspective of knowing it will be around forever.  Make certain you are proud of what you are saying and doing. Make sure you are not allowing other people to have any control over the lasting image you are leaving out there.

RYS 051: Boundaries Must Be Enforced

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There is a perception those who live a heart-centered life are submissive and must turn the other cheek, regardless of how we are treated. While tolerance, patience, cooperation, forgiveness, and peacefulness are behaviors of living aligned with heart, so is setting boundaries. To civilly but firmly set boundaries is one way we care for and respect ourselves.

• Healthy boundaries are a necessary part of creating wholesome relationships with others.
• Some people will treat us as we allow them to.
• Once a boundary is set it must be enforced

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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RYS 050: Ten Ways to Love Others

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Love is positive feelings put into action. You know you are loved by how lovingly others treat you. And, people know you love them by how lovingly you treat them too. So it is how your actions positively impact others emotionally that truly conveys your affection, your love.

• You want those you care for to FEEL your love for them.
• Love wants the best for others.
• Love chooses to be positive regardless of the circumstances.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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Other People’s Rudeness is Not Personal

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Have you ever been in the wrong place and the wrong time to have someone come out of left field and be rude to you?  This happened to my partner and me recently when a woman started shouting at us at a red light. It was clear she was enraged, but not at us. We were already stopped at the light when she drove up. When we happened to look over she just went ballistic. My partner and I both took a deep breath and ignored her. As soon as the light changed she floored her car and sped away still angry.

The key thing to remember is, when someone is so enraged they are willing to take it out on an innocent stranger, they are not thinking. They are on auto-pilot of a deeply wounded ego. They are mad at something or someone. People who lash out are basically out of control so there is no talking to them to point out how they are behaving. They may be aware of their behavior but are blinded by their ego so they are looking for someone, anyone to pick a fight with, and to dump aggression and anger upon.

Don’t take it personally. When people do something so irrational like what happened to me and my partner, they are directing their frustration, disappointment, and anger outward. Chances are they are really mad at themselves and vomit their disappointment onto others rather than look within to deal with the source of their pain.

Love yourself by being the emotionally responsible one and refuse to engage. No, it is not necessarily easy but it is definitely worth you taking the high road to not get involved with someone who is not in control of themselves.