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RYS 086: Other People’s Rudeness is Not Personal

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Have you ever been in the wrong place at the wrong time to have someone come out of left field and be rude to you? One key thing to remember, when someone is so enraged they are willing to take their anger, frustration and personal disappointment out on another person, they are not thinking. They are on auto-pilot of a deeply wounded ego.

• Choosing to mirror another person’s rude, arrogant, entitled behavior never turns out as our ego says it will.
• People who take their anger out on others are expressing outwardly what they are feeling inside about themselves.
• When you set the goal for your life of living in peace you become strong against the rude and inconsiderate actions of others.

 

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Fear is Handy When Being Chased by a Bear

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The only time I ever find fear useful is when it gets me moving out of the way of physical harm. For the rest of life’s unknowns and challenges, being fearful actually keeps us stuck. Living in fear of what we cannot know or change is being shackled to the heavy weight of dread. The chains of fear actually prevent us from moving on.

By bravely facing what we are afraid of we begin to realize much of what we fear is actually under our control. Like the stress I experienced from too many bills because I was not financially responsible. Or the anxiety that came from a relationship where my partner refused to work on us. Or the fear that arose when a loved one got a negative medical diagnosis.

It is times like these when the most positive action we can take is to stare fear directly in the eye. By realistically looking at what the situation is, rather than fearing what may be, we eliminate the idea we can control the uncontrollable (loved one gets a cancer diagnosis), know the unknowable (when we will die), or change the unchangeable (the past). When we accept a situation for what it is we can take the actions necessary to address life’s challenges in the most productive and positive ways.

Facing our fear is the way we stop getting stuck in the negativity and inaction of worry and dread.  Life is not meant to be lived in fear but in the faith that comes from believing we are strong enough to successfully get through whatever challenges we face.

RYS 085: How to Break a Habit

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Bad habits are learned behavior which means they can be replaced with positive ones. Overcoming any negative pattern of behavior leads to your having a greater level of self-respect, self-love, and personal empowerment. Whatever you want to achieve in life it is absolutely possible, when you believe in yourself and you take the necessary actions to reach your goal.

• No matter what bad habit you have, you are powerful to transform yourself.
• Taking control of your behavior is the key to winning over any undesirable habit.
• With planning, determination, self-respect, and self-control you can accomplish anything.

 

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RYS 084: Ten More Signs You Love Yourself

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You cannot control others. You cannot change others. You cannot heal others. That means it is only possible for you to be half of the relationship you have with other people. Your goal, in any of the relationships you have, is to be your best half. You are your best half by loving yourself first to love others well.

• Love is caring and affection displayed through positive action.
• Each and every time you treat yourself with support, respect, honesty, patience, kindness, forgiveness, and compassion you are loving yourself.
• When you freely demonstrate the behaviors of love to yourself you will be able to give them to others.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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RYS 083: Choose to Spread Love

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I am passionate about bringing peace to the planet. I am passionate about helping you establish the loving and patient relationships you want with the people you love. So I am going to be honest and tell you – it is not possible to create consistently loving and peaceful relationships with the people closest to you if you do not focus on being peaceful and loving toward all people.

• Love is a way of walking through life, a way of BE-ing in the world.
• To give the positive behaviors of love to the people we have affection and caring for we must BE these in our everyday life.
• We cannot be one way with our close friends and family and completely the opposite with strangers.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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You are Powerful to Heal

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When I was 21 I was briefly locked up in a psychiatric hospital. I became severely depressed.  At least that is what I was told I was.  Deep inside I knew my depression was the result of no longer being able to outrun the personal issues I had struggled with all of my life. Without anyone to confide in and nowhere to turn for help, I retreated inward as an act of desperate self-preservation.

At the time I considered life too unbearable to continue. So the answer as professionals saw it was to medicate me and slap a variety of labels on my condition.  But labels only served to further distance me from a real solution to my underlying problem – self-acceptance.

While I cannot speak for everyone, I have learned many things about the variety of reasons we get lost in the limitations of our mind. With our lives moving at ever faster speeds we are often too quick to reach for a drug, or to give up on ourselves, or to isolate ourselves in an attempt to cope. For me, healing began in earnest when I stopped looking for answers to repair my heart from someone or something outside me.  As long as I continued to give my power away to other people to fix my life, to accept me as I was, or to validate my existence, my life remained broken.

While one size does not fit all when we speak about moving past depression and traumatic issues, I feel it is important to remember our soul is powerful. Within us is a loving force capable of helping us overcome the challenges we tell ourselves we cannot.  While physical and emotional trials are very real, so is our soul’s power to move us past them. For me, and countless others who have taken our power back, we simply want to share our experience of how powerful we truly are when we believe in our soul’s power to help us heal.

RYS 082: It’s Time to Break Out of The Mold

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No matter the kind of environment in which you were raised, people attempted to get you to be like them. To believe what they believed, to like what they liked, to behave as they behaved, and to want what they want. What if the people who taught you who you were supposed to be and what you were supposed to want in life did not have the first clue about who you really are and what you want?

• A lack of solid identity is not an uncommon thing in adults.
• Parents, teachers, preachers, television, internet, and class mates all put their ideas of who we should be onto us.
• You and I and everyone else were specifically designed to find our own normal.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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RYS 081: Love Yourself First to Love Others Well

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To love others well we must first love ourselves. No matter what we’ve been taught about how we must love God, Jesus, or other people first, it is simply not possible to give to others what we do not first give to ourselves.

• Love is action.
• Love is caring and affection displayed as positive behavior.
• When we know what loving behavior feels like, we have gained the emotional knowledge necessary to express the feelings of love to others.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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RYS 080: Three Ways Your Respect Will Change the World

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Respect is the foundation of all successful relationships. Therefore each of us has a heart-responsibility to stop separating ourselves from and elevating ourselves above other human beings based on race, gender, or age.

• Respect is earned, over time.
• To get respect we give respect.
• We change the world by refusing to view our differences through the egocentric eyes of disrespect.

 

Romancing Your Soul ™ is a show where Regina gives you the keys to create a joyful life. In a world filled with limitless challenges and stress, who can listeners count on for real-life solutions? Just check in with Regina Cates, acclaimed author, positivity junkie. Regina is a champion of heart whose common sense tips will make your relationships better, your communication clearer, and your boundaries healthier.

 

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Freedom Comes With a Price

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Freedom does not mean we can do anything we want without care to the outcome of our choices. Freedom of choice is both a great privilege and an enormous responsibility.

If we choose to drink, text, or talk on the phone and drive, and cause an accident, we have created heart-break and chaos for ourselves and others. If we choose to keep loaded guns in our home and a child accidently shoots someone our choice creates devastation. If we choose to justify using substandard construction methods and a building collapses killing hundreds we have created anguish for thousands.

Everything we do is a choice and every choice we make has a consequence.

While our intention may not be to cause harm to ourselves and others, without forethought to consider the potential outcomes of our choices we are mindlessly rolling the dice. Life has so many variables we can never control. It makes good sense to want the best odds possible over each and every choice we can control – our behavior. We really are the powerful creators of our life when we exercise the freedom to think and care about the choices we make before we act.