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Loneliness is a State of Mind

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One of the best things I’ve learned is that there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. At this time in life I spend a lot of time alone and love each minute of me-time.  Periods of solitude are healthy. I engage with myself, support myself, and have established intimacy with myself, which means I know me inside and out and am comfortable with who I am. It is during my alone time that I am most creative.  I healed myself by being alone. Solitude allowed me to honestly look within.  Today I am absolutely okay being alone. But there was a time I spent most of my time alone and hated it. And, there was a good reason I felt lonely even when I was surrounded by other people.

I felt lonely because I told myself I was lonely.  I know it sounds funny but our thoughts create our behavior.  I was completely focused on the huge chasm between my desire for hanging out with people and the reality of my social interaction level.  I wanted lots of friends and to be popular but I wasn’t. What I focused on – my being lonely – I created.

It is important for us to accept we are never alone.  We always have ourselves.  For me, accepting I could be my own best friend, biggest fan, most trusted confidant, and loving partner, allowed me to appreciate the difference between being lonely and being alone.

Learn how to be your own best friend, biggest fan, most trusted confidant, and loving partner.  By being okay on your own you will no longer be lonely. And, people will want to be around you because you are okay on your own.